It is not easy for Muslims to find love. In an increasingly globalized world with discrepancies between and within communities, it is harder and harder to be single and to look for your soul mate.
We have come up with this little guide to help you, whether you are a Muslim or not, to facilitate your search.
Stop looking for love, focus on yourself and on your hobbies
It might seem contradictory but it is not. The more you will like yourself, the more others will like you. Before looking for your soul mate, start by working on yourself to know yourself better and to be aware of what you need and like. If you don’t, your relationships will inevitably fail.
Self-love begins with self-acceptance. Whatever you look like, (small, tall, thin or not…), what is important is that you accept and assume the body you have. Even if you hide behind makeup or change parts of your body, you will always be worried if you don’t get rid of your complexes. And people can tell. It will be hard for them to find value in you if you don’t see it yourself. Don’t you think a man who assumes to be bald instead of trying to hide it is more attractive? The same goes for an overweight woman accepting it instead of hiding in shapeless clothes.
Once you accept you as you are, you will respect yourself and this is the next step for an achieved self-esteem. How would you want people to respect and to love you and your choices if you don’t show them the way? You will believe in yourself again, in your dreams and in your ambitions and you will be pushed into the limelight again. The last step to success will be self-assertion because you will be able to express your feelings and your opinions while respecting your partner’s.
Go to places you like
There are no specific places to find love. It could happen anytime in the day and anywhere. But to optimize your chances to meet the one you would share your hobbies with, don’t hesitate to go to plaes you like and where you feel comfortable.
If you are a bookworm, show the best of yourself in your favorite bookshop. If you are a sportsperson, go to several gym clubs, you might meet your soul mate there.
But know that there are many many places where you could find love. Dating websistes even set up a list out of their members’ stories. Most of them found love:
- in the streets or public transports
- in bars and nightclubs. Classic places to date and flirt.
- within their acquaintances: friend of friends…
- on the internet. Obviously!
- Places where the opposite gender would go to: clothes stores, swimming pool for women and fitness rooms for men or any sport event…
These were just examples out of the many I could mention.
Follow an art class or sport activity
To better your odds, my advice is to choose activities that will help you feel good. Arts and sports are among the best ways to feel better and to improve your self-esteem.
Practising a sport will help you accept yourself and boost your energy and motivation to meet new people. A recent study showed that sportspersons had more success at dating. And this applies to men and women. Don’t hesitate! Become a member in a sportsclub because there is nothing better than getting in shape and meeting people. Just so you know, the most appreciated sports in France by single people are swimming, beach volley and figure skating.
As to arts, they boost your creativity and imagination. Imagine finding your soul mate during one of these special moments when you will feel like yourself and show the best of yourself.
The most important thing to be sure to find the right person is to keep faith. Keep the Koran as your best guide because it will give you the best advice.
For any human relationship, the Koran promotes values that any Muslim man and woman should share: purity, respect, courtesy and sincerity.
For men who might yield and get lost in their passion, this verse explains: ‘A believer slave is better than an idolater (free), even if she pleases you’. This prescription also works for women knowing that the same warning has been told to the man causing their downfall.
Be confident about your decisions but do not forget to trust your faith to find your soul mate.
To conclude: don’t worry and it will happen
Even if finding love is a demanding quest, stop focusing on it. Live, appreciate what you have and who you are and soon, you will find love and your life will change forever.
In brief, first learn to know, esteem and appreciate yourself to ease the contact with the opposite gender. This is how you will feel better and attract more people!